Practice of the Week
Category: Occasional. These are practices suggested for "every once in a while." Some of them are responses to a particular need that may arise; others are simply enriching occasional enhancements to the spiritual life. All of them are worth a try at least once. And any of them might become a regular and central part of your spiritual practice.
adapted from Jonathan Robinson, Find Happiness Now
For a spiritual intimacy experience, all you need is a willing partner, about forty-five minutes of time, and a somewhat quiet and private location. You can do this exercise with a lover, parent, child, friend, co-worker, or new acquaintance. Yet, since it leads to a deep level of sharing, make sure you do it with someone you'd like to be closer to. Also make sure you have plenty of time, and are in the mood to fully open and connect with another human being.
You are about to begin an extended sharing experience. Really getting to know another person involves a learnable set of skills and attitudes, risk-taking, trust, and acceptance. The following questions are designed to assist you in getting to know another person on a fairly intimate level. They can be answered to whatever degree of self-disclosure you wish. Take as long as you like to answer each question. After one person has answered a question, the other person answers that question. Carefully listen to your partner's answer, and feel free to ask related questions that might further clarify or expand upon that answer. If a conversation naturally unfolds from your partner's response, that's perfectly all right as well. Once both of you have answered the first question, proceed to the next.
If you give this exercise enough time and sincerity, you'll find it to be a very satisfying and powerful experience.
- When are you the happiest?
- What is your greatest strength?
- What is your greatest weakness?
- What was the most difficult time in your life?
- What is extremely important to you?
- When do you feel most affectionate?
- What are you avoiding right now?
- What helps you to feel really loved?
- What is the thing you most regret having done?
- How do you think I see you?
- What is your heart longing for?
- What do you consider to be your greatest accomplishment?
- What was your first impression of me?
- What do you like best about me?
- What kind of person have you dreamed of becoming?
You may also want to make up your own questions. As long as you create an atmosphere of safety and warmth, people appreciate the opportunity to talk about themselves. In our fast-paced world of gadgets and hype, the spiritual intimacy experince can be a great way to share the wonders of being human with someone you care about.
See also related Practice of the Week: Fall in Love with Someone
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For list of all weekly practices: "Practices of the Week Index"