2015-08-26

Take Pleasure

Practice of the Week
Take Pleasure
"Sometimes we should express our gratitude for the small and simple things like the scent of the rain, the taste of your favorite food, or the sound of a loved one's voice." (Joseph B. Wirthlin)

"It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
(Laura Ingalls Wilder)

When you find pleasure in life, you are not pushing away things that are hard or painful. You are simply opening up to the sweet stuff that's already around you -- and basking, luxuriating, and delighting in it.

This activates the calming and soothing parasympathetic wing of your autonomic nervous system, and quiets the fight-or-flight sympathetic wing and its stress-response hormones. Besides lifting your mood, settling your fears, and brightening your outlook, the stress relief of taking pleasure offers physical health benefits, too: strengthening your immune system, improving digestion, and balancing hormones.

How

Relish the pleasures of daily life, starting with your senses:
  • What smells good? The skin of an orange, wood smoke on the air, dinner on the stove, a young child's hair ... 
  • Tastes delicious? Strong coffee, delicate tea, French toast—chocolate!—tossed salad, goat cheese ... 
  • Looks beautiful? Sunrise, sunset, full moon, a baby sleeping, red leaves in autumn, images of galaxies, fresh fallen snow ...
  • Sounds wonderful? Waves on the seashore, wind through pine trees, a dear friend laughing, Beethoven's Ode to Joy, silence itself ...
  • Feels good on your skin? Newly washed sheets, a good back scratch, warm water, a fresh breeze on a muggy day ...
Next, include the mind: What do you like to think about or remember. For example, bring to mind a favorite setting -- a mountain meadow, a tropical beach, a cozy living room chair -- and imagine yourself there.

Last, savor these pleasures. Sink into them, take your time with them, and let them fill your body and mind. Marinate in pleasure! Notice any resistance to feeling really good, any thought that it is foolish or wrong . .. and then see if you can let that go. And fall back into pleasure.

Enjoy yourself!

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Also on the web (click on title):
"8 Simple Pleasures You're Forgetting to Enjoy" (Huffington Post)
"75 Simple Pleasures to Brighten Your Day" (zenhabits.net)
"10 Ways to Find More Pleasure Every Day" (CNN)
"The 30 Most Satisfying Simple Pleasures Life Has to Offer" (Marc Chernoff)
"Are You Taking Time to Enjoy Life's Simple Pleasures?" (Live Rich Live Well)

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For Journaling

Describe five ordinary things that you took pleasure in today.

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2015-08-19

Balance

Practice of the Week
Balance
"Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some." (Robert Fulghum)

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." (Thomas Merton)

"Do you sometimes wonder whether your life is in balance? It is easy to know if you lead a balanced life because if you do then: you enjoy every moment and every second; you can cope with any difficulties; you can be happy without any reason to be happy; you can be yourself and love the person you are." (Anastasiya Goers)
Adapted from Susan Manker-Seale, "Balance," in Scott Alexander, Editor, Everyday Spiritual Practice: Simple Pathways for Enriching Your Life

Spiritual practices are aimed at helping us understand our connectedness, to sense our oneness. The feeling of presence is very real for many of us. It is a feeling which sustains me, and fills me with appreciation for all that is my life.

We do not have to fit ourselves to someone's prescribed discipline in order to feel we are being spiritual. Spirituality is with us always, and our individual situations will define the tools we choose to use, if we take the time to listen to ourselves and know our joys and yearnings, whether for quiet or a walk in beauty, for exercise or music, for sunsets or sunrises, for strenuous activity or the hand in ours, for the glance of a child, for effort or work that is meaningful, for the creative task or the work of community, or for the moments of appreciation which are available to us anytime and anywhere.

My daily spiritual practice is to balance. A major part of that practice involves balancing the busy, taking-for-granted moments of the day with moments to pause and appreciate what is before me in my life. I probably wouldn't even have considered this a spiritual practice, except that I've been learning to redefine the meaning of what is spiritual, and to ponder for myself what is important in my faith. If we have family and work, integrating a traditional spiritual practice into our daily lives is a real challenge. Try meditating with a baby in the next room!

I know there are others more disciplined than I, but I have had years when I was able to be disciplined. I used to keep a journal in early college, but rarely write that way anymore. I was taught to meditate one summer when I was out of balance in my life. For a year I meditated twice each day, to great benefit of spirit. But slowly, I let it slide, and am trying to get myself to make room for it once again. I studied aikido for a year and a half, but moved, and my new teacher didn't blend the physical with the spiritual in the way my original teacher had. I am a poet, have written poetry for most of my life, learning from the insights I discover through such a process, yet never in a regular exercise. The latest practice I engaged in was to walk for twenty minutes three times a week, for both my physical and my mental health, and I kept that up for two years until I went back to teaching full-time. Last year I moved to Tucson, and have spent a year wondering when I would get back to walking, or would I join a Zen meditation group, or what. Even though I haven't kept up these practices regularly, I have learned from them, been shaped by them. They are tools, not ends. They help us learn to slow down, to pay attention, to focus, or to empty.

We can practice spirituality in our daily lives, in our daily activities, by remembering to pause, pay attention, and feel appreciation for what is before us. Paying attention means using all of our senses in being in the world and in the moment. Stop a moment. Feel the chair in which you are sitting. Notice the temperature around you. Listen for the sounds of your background symphony. Breathe. Appreciate the colors of your clothes, your skin, the sky, or the ceiling. Focus on appreciating the peace out of which you have found the time to read these words. Remember the feeling of oneness with creation, and try to bring that back into being. This practice only takes a few moments and is not bound by place or time or ritual.

Out of our busyness, we are called back into balance, back into ourselves and the silence of present being. But it is not just back into ourselves to which we are called; it is also to the awareness of the continuous presence of the environment around us and within us. We are called to remember our relationships and our dependencies. We are called to once again feel the oneness which sustains our being in balance with creation, and to do so with wonder and appreciation.

There are times, I will admit, when it is harder to recall that sense of presence and connection. When that happens, I usually realize that I've gotten somewhat out of touch with my body, and so I spend a little more time putting myself behind my eyes, so to speak. I don't just see; I see broadly, to the edges of my sockets, my brows and lashes. I put myself back into my hands and arms, feel my feet and the length of my body. I find my heartbeat, and my breath. As I become aware once again of the vessel which is me, the sense of awareness of presence grows, expands into the space around me, connecting me to all that I see and hear and touch and feel and taste. Balance returns.

The world is full of wonder, if we but stop and pay attention. It is there, waiting to feed us, even in very difficult situations. The day is made up of moments, and each moment can be an eternity of peace to those experiencing pain or grief. They are like blessings, and we count them, one by one throughout the day. They help us keep our balance.

Pause for those moments every so often to listen and to look, to feel and to smell, to taste and to appreciate, to feel thankful for the beauty which is around us even in the smallest grains of red dirt and in the grandest blue of sky. The mundane world is a source of deep spirituality. Notice it, appreciate it, for you are it and it is you.

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Rev. Susan Manker-Seale has served UU congregations in San Rafael, CA (1986-88), Glendale, AZ (1989-95), Tucson, AZ (1996-2010), and Flagstaff, AZ (2012-14).

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For Journaling

Describe a time when you did something that created a strong sense of balance in your life. (What did you do? What did balancing feel like for you?) Then take a self-assessment: How balanced would you say you are right now? How do you feel about that?

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2015-08-12

Protect Your Brain

Practice of the Week
Protect Your Brain
Washing your hands is a spiritual discipline. Seriously. Hand washing reduces colds and flu. Colds and flu activate the immune system, which releases chemicals throughout the body. These chemicals can linger in the brain affecting your spirit.

Your brain controls your other bodily systems, and it's the basis for your thoughts and feelings, joys and sorrows. No question, it is the most important organ in your body. Small changes in its neurochemistry can lead to big changes in your mood, resilience, memory, concentration, thoughts, feelings, and desires.

So it's vital to protect it from negative factors like toxins, inflammation, and stress.

If you take good care of your brain, it will take good care of you.

How

Avoid toxins. Besides the obvious actions -- like don't sniff glue, and stand upwind when pumping gas -- be careful about alcohol, which works by depriving brain cells of oxygen: that buzz is the feeling of neurons drowning.

Minimize inflammation. When your immune system activates to deal with an infection or allergen, it sends chemical messengers called cytokines throughout your body. Unfortunately, cytokines can linger in your brain, leading to a slump in mood and even depression (Maier and Watkins 1998; Schiepers, Wichers, and Maes 2005).

So take practical steps to reduce colds and flu, such as washing your hands often, and avoid any foods that set off your immune system. For example, many people have inflammatory reactions to gluten grains (e.g., wheat, oats, rye) and/or dairy products; it's not surprising, since these foods were introduced just 10,000 years ago, a tiny moment in the 200 million-year evolution of the mammalian, primate, and human diet. You don't need overt symptoms of allergies for a medical lab blood test to show that gluten or dairy foods aren't good for you. On your own, try going to zero with both these food groups for two weeks and see if you notice a difference in your mental or physical health; if you do, keep staying away from them: I do myself, and there are plenty of delicious alternatives.

Get regular exercise, which promotes the growth of new neural structures, including via the birth of new brain cells.

Relax. The stress hormone cortisol both sensitizes the fight-or-flight alarm bell of the brain -- the amygdala -- and weakens (even shrinks) a region called the hippocampus, which helps put the brakes on stress reaction. Consequently, in a vicious cycle, stress today makes you moree sensitive to stress tomorrow. Additionally, since the hippocampus is also critical for making memories, a daily diet of stress (even from just feeling frustrated, irritated, or anxious) makes it harder to learn new things or put your feelings in context. One major antidote to stress is relaxation, which activiates the soothing and calming parasympathetic wing of the nervous system. (See the Practice of the Week: "Relax.")

Journaling

Describe a time when you noticed toxins, inflammation, or stress having a lingering negative effect on your sense of well-being.

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2015-06-24

RE Volunteers 2014-2015

Thank you to all the parents and other adults who supported our RE ministry with snacks, substituting, rides, classroom visits, and everything you did to offer a helping hand.

Here is the list of teachers and those involved in significant RE projects:

Nursery & Pre-K
Hans Elsevier
Diane Keller
Michelle Reichman
Sahalie Sullivan
Jade Swiss

K-1st Grade: A Discovery Year
Josie Blatt
Joni Ehrlich
Maria Prieto
Janice Silverberg
Lex Suvanto

2nd-3rd Grade: Free to Believe
Monica Bentley
Marisol Ferguson
Cindy Kramer
Rhonda Miller
Kevin Sullivan
Ian Tera

4th Grade: Moral Tales
Suzanne Caccione
Christine Major
Anne Marie Sheeley

5th-6th Grade: Sing to the Power
Laura Goodspeed
Aimee Katz
Lizabeth Redfearn
Alex Sehdeva
Liz Suvanto

5th-6th Grade: Our Whole Lives
David Bowen
Bevin McGuire

7th-8th Grade: Neighboring Faiths
Emily Economou
John Economou
Pearl Prince
Brett Redfearn
Pinar Tanrikorur
Ben Unger

7th Grade Our Whole Lives
Al Rocchi
Janet Wafer-White

9th Grade: Coming of Age
Ed Dandridge
Gail Johnston
Andrew Svarre
Hope Tera

Youth Group
Julie Gans
Terri Gomez
Jeanna Munch
Cyndi Tillman
Dan Tillman
Jeff Tomlinson

Special Projects
Martin Alberti
Julie Carran
Jim Cobb
Ingrid Hartmann
Rev. LoraKim Joyner
Catherine Kortlandt
Betty Landauer
Tim Lynch
Bryan Masbak
Rae Messing
John Schwam
Dan Vought
Bice Wilson

RE Support Teams
Marcia Bean
John Cavallero
Melody Cooper
Tara James
Linda Janczewski
Lisa Stelling
Michael Stelling

RE Council
Jeff Blatt
Chris Breault
Pam Cucinell, Chair
Steve Miller
Sofia Pardillo
Al Rocchi
Tom Ryan
Janice Silverberg
Liz Suvanto
Amy Swiss

Nourish Your Brain

Practice of the Week
Nourish Your Brain
"There's no denying that as we age chronologically, our body ages right along with us. But research is showing that you can increase your chances of maintaining a healthy brain well into your old age if you add these "smart" foods to your daily eating regimen." (Carol Sorgen, WebMD)

"The busier and bigger my life gets, the more I need to be on the ball. Food is an essential part of my success strategy. Put another way: if I didn't know how to eat right for my brain, I'd be a mess." (Susan Biali, Psychology Today)

Your brain contains about a hundred billion neurons plus another trillion support cells. Most neurons fire five to fifty times a second -- even when you're asleep. Consequently, even though your brain weighs only three pounds, about 2 to 3 percent of bodyweight, it needs about 25 percent of the glucose in your blood. No wonder it's hungry!

And it needs other nutrients besides glucose. For example, about 60 percent of the dry weight of the brain consists of healthy fats. Or consider the neurotransmitters that carry information from one neuron to another. Your body builds these complex molecules from smaller parts, assisted by other biochemicals. For instance, serotonin -- which supports your mood, digestion, and sleep -- is made from tryptophan with the aid of iron and vitamin B6.

Significant shortages in any one of the dozens of nutrients your brain needs will harm your body and mind. For example:
  • Shortage of vitamins B12, B6, folate causes depressed mood (Skarupski, et al, 2010)
  • Shortage of vitamin D causes weaker immune system; dementia; depressed mood (Nimitphong and Holick 2011)
  • Shortage of DHA causes depressed mood (Rondanell et al. 2010)
On the other hand, filling up your neural cupboard with good supplies will bring you more energy, resilience, and well-being.

How

At every meal, especially breakfast, have three to four ounces -- about the size of a deck of cards -- of a high-protein food. This will give you vital amino acids plus help regulate blood sugar and insulin.

Speaking of blood sugar, eating lots of sweets and white-flour carbohydrates raises insulin levels -- which then crash, leading to the weary/cranky/foggy state of hypoglycemia. Routinely high insulin also puts you on the slippery slope to type 2 diabetes. So keep these foods to a minimum, aiming for no more than twenty-five grams a day of refined sugar, and avoiding refined flours as much as possible.

Eat lots of dark-colored fruits and vegetables, such as blueberries, kale, beets, carrots, and broccoli. These foods contain important nutrients that support memory (Krikorian, et al. 2010), protect your brain against oxidation (Guerrero-Beltran, et al. 2010), and may reduce the risk of dementia (Gu, et al. 2010).

Take a broad-spectrum, high-potency, multi-vitamin/mineral supplement. It would be great if you could get all the nutrients for optimal health from three meals a day, but most people don't have time to get and prepare all the fresh vegetables and other complex foods this would take. Plus we need more of these nutrients to help metabolize the hundreds of human-made molecules we're exposed to each day. In addition to eating as healthily as you can, it's simple to toss a few supplement capsules a day down the hatch, which takes less time than brushing your teeth. To identify a high-quality supplement -- whose dose probably involves two to three capsules -- look for one that has about five to ten times the "daily values" (DVs) of B vitamins and 100 percent of the DVs of minerals.

Also take two to three capsules a day of high-quality fish oil, enough to get at least 500 milligrams of both DHA (decosahexaenoic acid) and EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid); check the label. If you don't want fish oil, an alternative is a combination of flax oil and DHA from algae, but fish oil is the most effective way to get omega-3 oils into your body and brain.

Meanwhile, as you take these actions, enjoy knowing that as you "feed your head," you're in fact feeding your life.

For more, see "Best Foods for a Healthy Brain"

For Journaling

For the next three days, include in your journal a list of what you ate in the previous 24 hours. What's your assessment of that day's diet?

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2015-06-18

Poetry By Heart

Practice of the Week
Poetry By Heart

Category: Might Be Your Thing (This practice is not for everyone -- but may be just the thing for you!)
"Poetry is when an emotion has found its thought and the thought has found words." (Robert Frost)

"Poetry is not only dream and vision; it is the skeleton architecture of our lives. It lays the foundations for a future of change, a bridge across our fears of what has never been before." (Audre Lorde)
Read poetry. When a poem stands out for you as a favorite, stay with it. Copy it into a "favorite poems" notebook. Learn it by heart. Repeat it often, murmuring to yourself or reciting it to appropriate others.

Unitarian Universalist ministers Rev. Harry Scholefield and Rev. Laurel Hallman have articulated a spiritual practice Hallman calls "Living by Heart." Collect and write down poems, songs, stories that have spoken lyrically and wisely to human beings since time immemorial. Scholefield called these words and music the "Singing River" that represented for him the continual dawning of the human spirit.

By recording words of wisdom that have personal meaning and "living" with them until they become one's "heart wisdom," those words come to occupy a place beyond memory. When you live with a poem so intimately that it enters your heart, it becomes a constant resource, companion, and guide. Years and innumerable experiences accumulate, yet the rhymes and rhythms we stored deep in our brains stay with us.

The pace of contemporary life is often hectic and can seem unmanageable. Taking time to take in, to receive and hold wisdom in a form that can be accessed and used as a reminder of what holds our life can re-focus us in a helpful way.
"Poetry is a particularly rich genre because it speaks to both head and heart. It has carried the wisdom and stories of the ages. Think of the Illiad, the ancient Greek tale that has served for centuries as a metaphor for the journey away and back to self; consider the Psalms in Bible, poetry that carried the ancient Jews through the tribulations of exile and on to the promised land; recall the work of Shakespeare the greatest secular literature of all time that leaves no aspect of the human condition untouched. Consider the work of Mary Oliver and Wendell Berry and May Sarton and Denise Levertov and ee cummings other contemporary poets used liberally in our UU worship to celebrate the wonders of the natural world and our place in it." (Rev. Karen Gustafson)
Words of poetry and poetic, wise prose, taken to heart, become, as Hallman says “the words that sustain, inspire, and give voice to my life. They are words that call me back to a place of gratitude when the perspective that I face is dissatisfaction and disappointment.”

Some dozen or so years ago I watched a video of Hallman and Scholefield describing the life of spiritual deepening and, particularly, this practice of learning poetry by heart. I began to hand copy favorite poems into a small spiral-bound notebook dedicated to that purpose. Below is a sampling of some of my "heart wisdom" words. Perhaps some of them will also resonate with you and get you started on a path of gathering words to live by. Gather the words, and the words will gather you.

WILD GEESE by Mary Oliver

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting --
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

THE GUEST HOUSE by Jelaluddin Rumi (Coleman Barks trans)

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

THE PEACE OF WILD THINGS by Wendell Berry

When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

A GIFT by Denise Levertov

Just when you seem to yourself
nothing but a flimsy web
of questions, you are given
the questions of others to hold
in the emptiness of your hands,
songbird eggs that can still hatch
if you keep them warm,
butterflies opening and closing themselves
in your cupped palms, trusting you not to injure
their scintillating fur, their dust.
You are given the questions of others
as if they were answers
to all you ask. Yes, perhaps
this gift is your answer.

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2015-06-17

CUUC Music: Sun June 21


For the concluding Sunday of the 2014-15 church year, Adam Kent features works by Unitarian composers Béla Bartók and Edvard Grieg during the Prelude. For information on Adam’s recording of Lyric Piece by Grieg, visit http://www.adamkentmusic.com/listen/. Religious Education at CUUC will also be honored by other musical selections performed by church youth who participated in last month’s Talent Show. Read on for details. 
Prelude: Adam Kent, piano
Rumanian Dances
Dance with Sticks – Waistband Dance – On the Spot – Hornpipe –
Rumanian Polka – Quick Dance
                        Béla Bartók
Wedding Day at Troldhaugen, Op. 65, No. 6
                                    Edvard Grieg

Opening Music: Josie Blatt, vocal and ukele
Medley from Taylor Swift's "Fearless", Train's "Hey Soul Sister", and Jason Mraz's "I'm Yours"

Interlude: Wesley Miller, piano
Two-Part Inventions
                                 Johann Sebastian Bach

Offertory:Ashley Smith and Zara Suvanto
"Popular" from Wicked
                              Stephen Schwartz