2018-11-29

Letting Go, Moving Forward

Practice of the Week
Letting Go, Moving Forward

Category: Ecospiritual. These practices are oriented toward developing our spirituality through our connection with our planet home and our responsibility to care for it.


There is a comfort in familiarity, even if it is dysfunctional or unpleasant. It is challenging work to deconstruct comfortable ways of being in the world, rethink identity, and let go of beliefs that no longer function for us. Challenging, yet necessary. And it is work our entire culture must do.

The large-scale transformation of the relationship of humans to the Earth is what Catholic Ecotheologian Thomas Berry called "the Great Work of our time." We must reclaim the Holy Ground; re-sacralize, re-sanctify, rebuild, and re-imagine everything. We have, perhaps, begun to shed the old, but scarcely imagined what to create in its place. We are at the turning of the tide, the pause between breaths. There are no certainties. We don’t know if the larger culture will ever be transformed – short of destroying itself. Yet here we are. Many of us have become aware of the necessity for “the Great Work,” and personal transformations of individual ways of being is under way. Regardless of what the culture does, we embrace our life's task, our own personal Great Work. And we let go.

We let go. Of the idea of an endless, unlimited Earth. Of faith in silver-bullet solutions. Of our addiction to stuff, to consumerism, to symbols of success and status. Of quiet desperation. Of "more is better." Of thinking of ourselves and our actions as disconnected from the larger whole. Of outdated ideas and images. Of spiritual concepts primarily born from justifications of our own desires. We let go, and then let go some more.

Having let go of so much, you may feel unsure of what happens next. It’s unsettling to be disconnected from the dominant cultural paradigm but to have no well-formed alternative in which to be grounded. This in-between place is a temporary but necessary stopover in the process of change. A new paradigm is emerging, replacing hostility and competitiveness with Earth community, balance, and cooperation. We take a deep breath, clasp hands, and turn.

Practices

1. Ritual of Release. On small slips of paper, write down old attitudes, ways of thinking, and beliefs that no longer resonate with your spirit. You may do this with an exclusively ecological theme, or also include other thoughts. These slips of paper symbolize what you are letting go. Place the papers in a fireproof bowl, take them outdoors and burn them. Reflect on the process of letting go, and its impact on you personally.

2. Rocks and Apples. For this visualization, make a recording of yourself read the following paragraph, with appropriate long pauses. Then sit comfortably in a place where you will be undisturbed for fifteen minutes. Relax, and slow your breathing. Close your eyes, continue breathing for a few moments, then press “Play”:
Imagine yourself walking a long, dusty road that continues off into the distance. In each arm is a heavy bags full of rocks, and on your back is a pack filled with more rocks. You have rocks in your pockets too. You can't seem to recall where the rocks came from or how you got them, but you have come to believe that they are important, and carrying rocks is what everyone does. As you trudge along, you realize how heavy the rocks are. You begin to think there is no good reason to keep carrying them. Still, you are nervous about setting them down, You take one rock out of your pocket and leave it on the side of the road. Nothing happens, except that your pocket is not as heavy. You go a little further, and then drop another rock. Again, nothing happens. You go a few more steps, and then dump the entire load from your pockets. It feels nice. You ditch the bags of rocks as well. Ahhh! It feels lovely to be unburdened. Walking now more quickly and comfortably, you pass an apple tree on the side of the road. You think about putting some apples in the pockets that are now empty. You remember the pack on your back and dump out all those rocks. You keep walking, encountering all sorts of wonderful people as you go. You journey on, light of heart and light of load. You feel happy.
After you complete the visualization, bring your awareness back to the present, and open your eyes slowly. Now, try the visualization again, without the recording, making your own variations to the scenario. Who might you encounter on the way? What else might you carry? Allow your own creativity the freedom to make it especially meaningful to you.

Group Activities

Letting Go. By this point, the twelfth segment of Ecospiritual practice, some sort of internal change has occurred in your group. Maybe it's a new attitude, or a rethinking of old ideas. Maybe some members have consciously changed their lifestyle in some way. Begin this group time by going around the circle and completing the phrases, “I've faced up to ..," and "I've let go of ..." Sing together an appropriate hymn or folk song. Then discuss the questions. Conclude with another song.

Questions for Group Conversation:
  • What does the process of unlearning mean to you? How do you choose which ideas to let go of and which to keep?
  • Have you ever let go of something and felt unburdened and empowered by doing so? When? How did the process of letting go change you?
  • As you consider the whole idea of unlearning and letting go, are there some ideas or concepts that are worth holding on to? What is it about them that makes them special and worth keeping even as you let go of others?
  • What cultural ideas or attitudes have been the most difficult for you to unlearn? Is there anything in particular that causes a real struggle for you? What is it, and why do you think it is so?

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2018-11-28

Music: Sun Dec 2


No, it’s not a typo. TWO pieces entitled “Curious Story” kick off December’s monthly theme of Curiosity. And, for those of you brimming with sufficient curiosity to arrive by 10 a.m., a family-friendly “Music for All Ages” presentation looks at the connection between invention and curiosity in music written by J. S. Bach for his eldest son nearly 300 years ago. The CUUC Choir is also on hand with music from diverse religious traditions. Read on for programming details.

Centering: Music for All Ages with Adam Kent, piano
Curiosity, Invention, and J. S. Bach

Anthem: CUUC Choir directed by Lisa N. Meyer and accompanied by Georgianna Pappas
How Can I Keep From Singing?       
Traditional Shaker Folksong, arr. by Matthew Culloten

Offertory:
“Curious Story,” from Scenes of Childhood, Op. 15
                                             Robert Schumann
“Curious Story,” Op. 138, No. 9
                                             Stephen Heller

Anthem: 
Hiné Ma Tov*
Folk Song, Round from Psalm 133:1    1
*Translation:  Behold how good and pleasant it is for all to dwell together in unity.

Religious Education News: Sun Dec 2

The Thanksgiving holiday, now a memory, was for many a time replete with food, family, and relaxation. Our sense of community, thankfulness, and gratitude remains, however, as we enter the season of goodwill and peace. Last Sunday was an Arts & Craft Day for children and youth, led by Sabrina Cleary and Janice Silverberg. It was a marvelous experience as all ages enjoyed one another’s company and proudly demonstrated their creative talents by making beautiful ornaments and decorations. Janice had no difficulty holding everyone’s attention as she read The Grinch Who Stole Christmas to the sounds of munched cookies and other treats. It was a testament to our children and their interest and love of RE to see the diversity of ages coalesce into an animated group project. This Sunday, during Deck the Halls after service, the children and will have the opportunity to hang their works of art in the sanctuary for the entire congregation to admire. To prepare for our winter holidays, the “hanging of the greens” in the sanctuary has already been done. Craig Hunt and I were hoping to do this project together but logistics of my travel weren’t very conducive to a mutual time. My sincere thanks go out to him and his family who came in and did all the hanging despite Craig’s knee injury. Craig, your dedication was most appreciated - thank you for a job well done! Another exciting Sunday is underway on Dec 2. We will have Music For All Ages, a Wonder Box Story, classes, and then, last but not least, Deck the Halls at 11:30. Teachers, congregation, and family are welcome to decorate alongside the students. Looking forward to seeing you all!

Michele Rinaldi
Religious Education Coordinator

A Look at What’s Coming Up…

Opportunity for Young Voices to Sing with the Choir
Does your kid love to sing? Children and youth have an opportunity to join the CUUC Choir for a piece in their Winter Choral Concert on Sun Dec 16, at 12:30pm. The kids may rehearse with the choir on Sun Dec 2 and Sun Dec 9 from 9:30-10:00am. Choir director Lisa Meyer needs to finalize musical selections, so please RSVP to cuucre@gmail.com by Fri Nov 30.

RE This Sun Dec 2
Grades K-7th start in the sanctuary for Music For All Ages and Wonder Box Story. Grades 8th-12th start in classrooms.

Deck the Halls this Sun Dec 2, after RE
Join us in the sanctuary after RE to hang the decorations we created last week. Fun for all ages and something families can do together!

Wreaths for Sale this Sun Dec 2
As part of a Scout project, Doyle and Callie Zisson will be selling wreaths outside the main doors at CUUC after the service this Sunday.

Holiday Giving Opportunities

Gently Used Children's Books and Toys Drive for the Ecumenical Food Pantry, through Sun Dec 9
Bring in gently used kids' books and toys for our collection to benefit clients of the Ecumenical Food Pantry. We are also collecting stuffed animals (must be new or like new). Contact: Mary Cavallero (marycava4@gmail.com) for information or to volunteer to distribute.

Gift Cards for Coachman Family Center, Sign Up Sun Dec 2 & Sun Dec 9; Bring In Wrapped and Tagged Gift Cards Sun Dec 16
Help a family at the Coachman shelter by signing up to purchase a $25 gift card for their school-age children. On Sun Dec 2 and Sun Dec 9, we will have lists available with the age and gender of the children, and the type of card they prefer. Please box and wrap the gift cards, tag with the child's name and room number, and bring to CUUC by Sun Dec 16. Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

Personal Items for Shelter Residents, Sun Dec 2 - Sun Dec 30
New socks, men's underwear (L & XL), women’s underwear, and toiletries will be collected throughout December for residents of local shelters. Posters from our Religious Education students help spread the word! Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

The Mitten Tree is Coming!
We will decorate the tree with your donations of mittens, gloves, hats, and scarves for all ages and sizes. Share the gift of warmth! We will be collecting throughout December. Items will be given to the men, women, and children of local shelters: The Coachman Family Center, Open Arms, and Samaritan House. Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

Faith Development Friday, Fri Dec 7, Fireside Area & Classrooms
Our evening of learning, spiritual growth, and community. 6:15pm Pizza & Salad Community Dinner; 7:00pm Programs; 8:30pm Coffee. Programs include Adult RE and Family Journey Group. Adults may also just come for a slice and unstructured social time together. All are welcome to stay after the programs to share coffee and a chat. RSVP to CUUCevents@gmail.com by 12:00 noon on Friday.

2018-11-23

From the Minister, Fri Nov 23

As the Honduran migrant caravan, now identified as “The Exodus” (El Éxodo), makes its way toward the US, I wanted to let your know what our Unitarian Universalist Service Committee (UUSC) is doing. UUSC:
  • is part of an interfaith coalition in regular communication with people accompanying migration
  • encourages your support for asylum-seekers on their journey through Mexico and arrival at the U.S. border, and for local welcoming organizations in El Paso, TX.
  • is helping arrange for volunteers at the Annunciation House in El Paso, for UUs able to volunteer for at least one week on site.
  • is helping arrange for UU clergy (those with some Spanish) to meet a need for clergy accompaniment of El Exodo through parts of Mexico.
Learn more!

Tell Congress to Protect TPS Holders: HERE
Love Resists: HERE
Consider taking the online course, "Changing Systems, Changing OUrselves": HERE
Read the UUSC report, "The Struggle for Human Rights and Transformation in Honduras: A Faith Delegation's Observations: HERE

Yours thankfully,
Meredith

The Liberal Pulpit /New:
Index of past sermons: HERE. Index of other reflections: HERE.
Videos of sermons are on the Liberal Pulpit Youtube Channel: HERE

Practice of the Week: Feel Safer /Slogan to Live By.
Consider whether you deserve to feel safer: whether you are more braced against life, more guarded, more cautious, more anxious, more frozen, more appeasing, more rigid, or more prickly than you truly need to be. If the answer is yes, there are some ways to help yourself feel safer, so that a growing internal sense of calm and confidence will increasingly match the true reality of the people and settings around you.READ MORE.

Your Moment of Zen: The Middle Way /If I tell you that your question is a good one, don't you see that it is now answered?

Case
One evening Woodpecker asked, "What is the Middle Way?"
Raven said, "Good question."
Woodpecker said, "You're dodging my question."
Raven said, "You're dodging my answer."
"The Middle Way" refers to (a) harmonizing opposites such as the particular and the universal, relative and absolute; (b) the Eightfold Path

Verse
The good question, at home with an apt mind,
Brings forth offerings,
Yet is not put to rest.
Lives on and repeats, repeats.

The apt mind, at home with a good question,
Stays the course between destructions
of one side or the other.
To fix an answer breaks the question.
Case by Robert Aitken, adapted; introduction and verse by Meredith Garmon
Raven 78

2018-11-21

Religious Education News: Sun Nov 25

There were no RE classes last Sunday so all the children and youth could join their families in our multigenerational Thanksgiving service, a celebration of the blessings, love, and friendship in our lives. It was particularly fitting to hear and participate in the “Amended” Thanksgiving Story, and better understand where we came from. That journey of Thanksgiving over the years has solidified and instilled the very fabric of the beliefs and principles of CUUC into each and every one of us. The youth as well as the adults offered up their cards of gratitude, which Rev. Meredith read. This was particularly moving as the essence of gratitude was tangible. Family and love amongst many other gifts in its repetition alone was powerful and impactful. As I sat in the service, I could not help but reflect on my own personal blessings and the enrichment I have obtained from them. I consider myself gifted to be part of this congregation. My professional and personal life has been exponentially transformed in coming to know the students, families, staff, and church members. I treasure the values of CUUC and treasure my tenure here as an unexpected, life-changing gift. These are my beatitudes for which I give thanks. Those thanks go out to all of you and so, I sincerely wish everyone a loving, peaceful Thanksgiving.

Michele Rinaldi
Religious Education Coordinator

A look at what’s coming up...

This Sun Nov 26
All ages in Fellowship Hall for Deck the Hall Crafts. Come help create the decorations for the sanctuary.

Opportunity for Young Voices to Sing with the Choir
Does your kid love to sing? Children and youth have an opportunity to join the CUUC Choir for a piece in their Winter Choral Concert on Sun Dec 16, at 12:30pm. The kids may rehearse with the choir on Sun Dec 2 and Sun Dec 9 from 9:30-10:00am. Choir director Lisa Meyer needs to finalize musical selections, so please RSVP to cuucre@gmail.com by Fri Nov 30.

Deck the Halls - Dec 2 after RE
Join us in the sanctuary after RE to create and hang decorations. Fun for all ages and something families can do together!

Holiday Giving Opportunities
Gently Used Children's Books and Toys Drive for the Ecumenical Food Pantry, through Sun Dec 9

Bring in gently used kids' books and toys for our collection to benefit clients of the Ecumenical Food Pantry. Help bring joy to parents who could not otherwise afford holiday gifts for their children. We are also collecting stuffed animals (must be new or like new) for the senior clients who enjoy one for themselves! Contact: Mary Cavallero (marycava4@gmail.com) for information or to volunteer.

Gift Cards for Coachman Family Center, Sign Up Sun Dec 2 & Sun Dec 9; Bring In Wrapped and Tagged Gift Cards Sun Dec 16
Help a family at the Coachman by signing up to purchase a $25 gift card for their school-age children. On Sun Dec 2 and Sun Dec 9, we will have lists available with the age and gender of the children, and the type of card they prefer. Please box and wrap the gift cards, tag with the child's name and room number, and bring to CUUC by Sun Dec 16. Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

Personal Items for Shelter Residents, Sun Dec 2 - Sun Dec 30
New socks, men's underwear (L & XL), women’s underwear, and toiletries will be collected throughout December for residents of local shelters. Posters from our Religious Education students help spread the word! Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

The Mitten Tree is Coming!
We will decorate the tree with your donations of mittens, gloves, hats, and scarves for all ages and sizes. Share the gift of warmth! We will be collecting throughout December. Contact: Ray Messing (raymessing@gmail.com).

Faith Development Friday, Fri Dec 7, Fireside Area & Classrooms
Our evening of learning, spiritual growth, and community. 6:15pm Pizza & Salad Community Dinner; 7:00pm Programs; 8:30pm Coffee. Programs include Adult RE and Family Journey Group. Adults may also just come for a slice and unstructured social time together. All are welcome to stay after the programs to share coffee and a chat. RSVP to CUUCevents@gmail.com.

Music: Sun Nov 25

This Sunday’s musical selections might well be subtitled “Music for Meditation”. Through hypnotically steady rhythms, persistent intervals, and reliance on non-Western modal and pentatonic melodic formulae, all the works performed have the potential to free the mind of conventional constraints. Read on for programming details.

Centering Music: Adam Kent, piano
     Bell-Ringing, Op. 54, No. 6
                                    Edvard Grieg

    Mouvements perpétuels
               I. Assez modéré
               II. Très modéré
               III. Alerte
                                    Francis Poulenc

Opening Music:
    Secreto from Impresiones íntimas
                                    Federico Mompou

Offertory:
    From Préludes, Book II
                La puerta del vino
                                    Claude Debussy

Interlude:
    From Préludes, Book II
               Bruyères

2018-11-16

From the Minister, Fri Nov 16

Religion begins in gratitude. It is the first and most basic spiritual practice and spiritual virtue. The difference between a secular and a religious orientation is not about what entities or supernatural powers do or do not exist – it’s about the attitude we have toward what exists, whatever it is.

Robert Emmons conducted a study in which he asked people to make journal entries once a week. He randomly assigned subjects to one of three groups: the first group listed five things for which they were grateful; the second group listed five hassles or annoyances that week; the third group, the neutral group, listed five events or circumstances that affected them, and they were not told to accentuate the positive or negative aspects of those circumstances.

In the first group, typical items included: The generosity of friends; The right to vote; The God-given gift of determination; That I have learned all that I have learned; Sunset through the clouds; The chance to be alive; My in-laws live only ten minutes away.

In the second group, typical items included: Hard to find parking; Messy kitchen no one will clean; Finances depleting quickly; No money for gas; Our house smells like manure; Burned my macaroni and cheese; Did favor for friend who didn’t appreciate it; My in-laws live only ten minutes away.

Emmons also asked subject to give an answer each week to two questions. One, rate how you feel about your life as a whole during the last week, from -3 (“terrible”) to +3 (“delighted”) Two, rate your expectations for the upcoming week, from -3 (“pessimistic, expect the worst”) to +3 (“optimistic, expect the best”).

At the beginning of the ten-week study period, the three groups were about the same in terms of how they felt about their life as a whole and what they expected for the upcoming week: about the same range of responses and about the same average response. By the end of the ten weeks, however, the gratitude group was scoring much higher on both how they felt about their life as a whole and on what they expected out of the upcoming week than either the hassles group or the neutral group.

It was remarkable, reports Emmons, how much difference it made to take just a couple minutes once a week to list five things one is grateful for.

Yours thankfully,
Meredith

The Liberal Pulpit /New:
Index of past sermons: HERE. Index of other reflections: HERE.
Videos of sermons are on the Liberal Pulpit Youtube Channel: HERE

Practice of the Week: Everyday Relationships /Might Be Your Thing. It's easy to see the sacred in the stars at night or in the emotion of a great Sunday service. But how about in your most damp and oozy moments of parenting toddlers? Or in your angriest moments of conflict with a partner? There. Right there is the sacred. Our everyday relationships are not automatically a spiritual practice -- but we can make them be a spiritual practice. READ MORE.
Your Moment of Zen: Giving /We hear from Grouse today. We haven't heard from Grouse since #44, when she was asking about the good of practice, given that even long-time students and some teachers act selfishly and cause dissension in the community.

Grouse refers to an exchange between Mole and Raven in #32: Mole asked, "I'm wondering what happens at the point of death." Raven sat silently a while, and then said, "I give away my belongings."

Those things that are left -- after giving away belongings, and after death -- those things are your self, you know.

Case
Grouse spoke up at a gathering and asked, "Mole said that a while back you said that you give away your belongings when you die. I've been brooding about this, but it still isn't clear to me."
Raven said, "What isn't clear?"
Grouse said, "Is there anything left?"
Raven said, "Oh, lots: the moon, the wind, the crickets."
Verse
The Long and the Short of It

Belongings belengthen.
What I belong to and
What belongs to me,
Fix my placement,
Post grief-tinged desires,
And stretch me long between.

Moon, wind, and crickets
Draw me up short again.
Case by Robert Aitken, adapted; introduction and verse by Meredith Garmon
Zen at CUUC: Sat Nov 17