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2020-07-21

UU Minute 1-5

UU Minute #1: Heirs of Alternative Voices



To start at the beginning: the roots of what we now call Unitarian Universalism lie in early Christianity, which itself emerged from pre-Rabbinic Judaism in various urban centers around the Roman empire. Early Christianity had no central authority, no commonly accepted scripture, no commonly practiced liturgy, no orthodox theology. Early Christians were a scattered and diverse mosaic of different practices and beliefs. And they squabbled about that. In particular, was Jesus of Nazareth the latest in a long line of prophets calling the human community to righteousness and piety? Or was he something more? And, if more, what, exactly? There was tremendous pressure to determine what was the true faith, so orthodoxy was eventually established. But alternative voices were never entirely snuffed out. We today are the heirs of those alternative voices.

UU Minute #2: Trinitarianism is NOT Biblical



We are called "Unitarian," as opposed to "Trinitarian," even though that particular theological dispute was never central to what we have been all about. The orthodox called us "Unitarian," and -- this may come as a surprise -- we couldn't come to consensus about some other name to call ourselves, so the name "Unitarian" stuck. Which raises the question: How did Trinitarianism become orthodox in the first place? It's not in the Bible. The closest thing in the Bible is that passage where Jesus tells his followers to go forth "and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the father, and of the son, and of the holy spirit."* But that doesn't say anything about father, son, and holy spirit being, in fact, one, rather than three, which is what Trinitarianism claims. How did Trinitarianism become orthodoxy? That's the question for the next episode of the Unitarian Universalist minute.

*Matthew 28:19.

UU Minute #3: How Trinitarianism Became Orthodox



Roman Emperor Constantine's reign began in they year 306 when he was 34 years old. His reign would last 31 years, and his administrative and financial reforms strengthened the empire. Six years into his reign [at age 40], Constantine converted to Christianity, becoming the first Christian Roman Emperor after centuries of Christian persecution at the hands of the Romans. The Christianity of the time was scattered and diverse: no central authority, no commonly accepted scripture, no commonly practiced liturgy, no orthodox theology. For Constantine, devoted to bringing administrative order to his empire, this had to be fixed. So, in 325, Constantine convoked the Council of Nicaea, calling all the bishops together to hash out just what Christianity was. Jesus of Nazareth was the religion's central figure, but was he the latest in a long line of prophets calling people to righteousness and piety, or was he something more? And, if more, what? Constantine didn't care how these questions were answered just so long as there was a uniform answer. He invited all 1,800 Christian Bishops, and more than 250 of them actually went to Nicaea that summer*, representing every region of the Roman empire. Constantine himself was there for some of it. For three months they discussed and debated,* drafted and revised statements, and in the end the adopted a statement that established Trinitarianism as orthodoxy, and the more unitarian form of Christianity advocated by a priest named Arius was declared heresy. We've been the heretics ever since.

*add in each bishop's retinue of priests, deacons, subdeacons and readers, and the number approached 2,000 -- filling the inns of Nicaea to bursting with over a dozen men per room.

**The picture showing two clerics shoving each other is a 2016 painting by Giovanni Gasparro depicting Bishop (later, Saint) Nicholas slapping Arius at the Council of Nicaea. Yes, THAT Saint Nicholas. So we came out of Nicaea not only heretics, but on Santa Claus' naughty list.

UU Minute #4: Universalism IS Biblical



The Council of Nicaea in 325 was bad news for unitarian Christians. Arius argued that the divinity of the father was greater than that of the son. Jesus was divine -- was more than human -- but was not God. This Arian Christianity lost out to the Trinitarian view that father and son were of the same substance: co-eternal, co-equal. But no matter which side had won in Nicaea, the effect of the Council was to emphasize the importance of having the right doctrine, and de-emphasize the ethics and values of living a Christian life. And that was bad news for the other side of our heritage: the universalist Christians.
Virtually from the beginning, some Christians had understood that everyone was going to heaven: universal salvation. They had Biblical support:
2 Peter 3: "The Lord [does] not [want] any to perish, but all to come to repentance."
1 Corinthians 15: "For as all die in Adam, so all will be made alive in Christ."
Romans 14: "As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall give praise to God."
Sure sounds like salvation was to be universal. But as Christianity pivoted to a doctrinal emphasis, universalism had to be squelched -- because: if we're all going to heaven anyway, it's hard to make the case that you only get in if you have the right doctrines.

UU Minute #5: Pandemics, and Printing Presses, and Protestants. Oh, My.



Pandemics are nothing new. They have been a periodic part of human life ever since we’ve had cities. The Bubonic plague in the middle-1300s killed one third of Europe’s population, creating labor shortages, which created pressure for innovation. For instance, as long as there were plenty of people to copy things by hand, it didn’t occur to anybody that a printing press sure would be handy. Even so, it was a century after the worst plague year before Gutenberg’s printing press with movable type came on line. Some sixty years after Gutenberg’s press, in 1517, Martin Luther launched the Protestant Reformation. Coincidence? Hardly.
  • For one thing, the Catholic Church jumped on the printing press to crank out the certificates for indulgences – confirmation of going to heaven for those willing to pay enough to the church. Increased traffic in indulgences highlighted the corruption in the Church that motivated Luther’s reforms.
  • Second, the printing press produced Bibles in the vulgar tongues. Suddenly more or less ordinary people – if they were literate – no longer had to rely on what Priests reported the Bible said.
  • Third, Luther’s complaints about the church echoed complaints that others had been making for centuries – but those others didn’t have this new printing press contraption. The 95 theses that Luther famously nailed to the church door in Wittenberg were also taken to the Wittenberg printer, where they became a pamphlet that spread through Europe* – so Luther’s theses had an influence far greater than previous church critics had. 
Unitarians emerged from the radical wing of the Protestant Reformation. Pandemic led to printing press, which led to Protestant Reformation, which led to us. I wonder: to what will our current pandemic lead?

*The 95 Theses were nailed to the church door on Oct 31, 1517. By Nov 17, broadsheet copies of Luther's document were being printed in London, over 1,000 land-kilometers, plus an English Channel, away. Luther followed-up that document with Europe's first media blitz: from 1518 to 1525, Luther’s writings accounted for a third of all books sold in Germany. His mastery of the new technology allowed him to succeed where Jan Hus (1369-1415) a century before had met with execution.

2020-06-28

White Privilege -- the numbers

A few years ago, J.B.W. Tucker -- a white male writer who writes mostly about "reclaiming conservative theology" -- assembled on his blog what he called "the ultimate white privilege post."

With careful footnotes on all his sources, he presents the hard (in every sense of the word) data in 11 categories:
  1. Police,
  2. the War on Drugs
  3. Prison (Mass Incarceration)
  4. Criminal Justice/Courts
  5. Education
  6. Employment
  7. Wealth
  8. Workplace
  9. Voting
  10. Media
  11. Housing
In each of these categories, Tucker compiled the extensive documentation of how advantageous it is to merely be white in the US.

Please read, or re-read, Tucker's full post, which is now here

https://www.thenewprogressive.net/ultimate-white-privilege-statistics/

Tucker's work is now several years old. For an update of some of those figures, see this Washington Post article from 2020 Jun 23:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2020/06/22/what-numbers-say-whites-blacks-live-two-different-americas/

2020-05-24

The Utes and the Unitarians

2009 General Assembly in Salt Lake City, Utah
UUA President William Sinkford tells of the connection between 19th-century Unitarian and the indigenous nations in the area of what is now Utah.

The Utes and The Unitarians from Unitarian Universalist Assoc. on Vimeo.


2009 General Assembly in Salt Lake City, Utah
UUA President William Sinkford's apology, and responses from Forrest Cuch, Director, Utah Division of Indian Affairs, and Clifford Duncan, Spiritual Leader Ute Tribe, Roosevelt, UT

2020-05-14

Assess the Strength of Your Inner Critic

Practice of the Week
Assess the Strength of Your Inner Critic

Category: WORTH A TRY, or OCCASIONAL, or MIGHT BE YOUR THING: The practices in this category are "worth a try" at least once. Some of them are daily practices, where giving them "a try" would mean doing them daily for a week. Others are one-time exercises to do and re-do quarterly or annually. Some practices in this category are great for responding to a particular need that may arise in your life. Others are simply enriching occasional enhancements to the spiritual life. Among these practices you may find the one particular practice that becomes your main and central spiritual practice -- or a Key Supporting Practice.


Your Inner Critic whispers, whines, and needles you into place. Ze checks your thoughts, controls your behavior, and inhibits actions. Ze thinks ze is protecting you from being disliked, hurt, or abandoned. Instead, your Inner Critic:
  1. constricts your ability to be creative.
  2. stops you from taking risks because ze makes you fear failure.
  3. views your life as a series of mistakes waiting to happen.
  4. undermines your courage to change.
  5. compares you unfavorably with others and makes you feel "less than."
  6. is constantly warning you not to look foolish.
  7. is terrified of being shamed and so monitors all your behavior to avoid this.
  8. causes you to suffer from low self-esteem, and possibly depression, because ze tells you that you are not good enough.
  9. can make looking at yourself in a mirror or shopping for clothes miserable because of its ability to create such a negative view of the body.
  10. can take all the fun out of life with zir criticisms.
  11. makes self-improvement a compulsive chore because ze bases the work on the premise that something is wrong with you.
  12. doesn't allow you to take in the good feelings that other people have toward you.
  13. makes you susceptible, and often victim, to the judgments of other people.
How Strong Is Your Inner Critic?

Answer each of the following, 0-5:
0 = never, ever
1 = rarely
2 = between "rarely" and "occasionally"
3 = occasionally
4 = between "occasionally" and "frequently"
5 = frequently

_____ 1. I wake up at night worried about the mistakes that I made the day before.
_____ 2. I replay conversations after I've had them to see what I've done wrong.
_____ 3. I don't like the way my clothes look on me.
_____ 4. When I'm with other people, I wonder if they're critical me.
_____ 5. I'm cautious about trying anything new because I'm afraid of looking foolish.
_____ 6. I'm afraid people will laugh at me.
_____ 7. I worry about what other people think.
_____ 8. I feel inferior to other people.
_____ 9. I wish I had a more attractive body.
_____ 10. When I look in the mirror, I check to see what's wrong with me.
_____ 11. When I read over something I've just written, I'm not satisfied with it.
_____ 12. I'm afraid that there's something basically wrong with me.
_____ 13. I wonder what other people would think of me if they really knew what I was like underneath.
_____ 14. I compare myself with other people.
_____ 15. I seem to attract judgmental people.
_____ 16. I question my decisions after I have made them and think that I might have done better.
_____ 17. When I say 'No' I feel guilty.
_____ 18. When I take a test like this, I'm sure that I don't do as well as other people.
_____ 19. I avoid taking risks if I can help it.
_____ 20. When I think about self-improvement I feel that there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed.

Add up your answers to these 20 questions.
Less than 45 = small Inner Critic
46-75 = medium-sized Inner Critic
76-100 = large and strong Inner Critic

Once you've assessed the strength of your Inner Critic, you may want to practice ways of distancing yourself from (i.e., shrinking) your Inner Critic. See the Practice of the Week, "Confront Your Negative Inner Voice" for some approaches to take to your Inner Critic.

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2020-04-30

On the Journey, May: Joy


The May issue of "On the Journey" has arrived! HERE

We'll be exploring JOY. Don't miss it, and don't miss your Journey Group meeting to get together to work with this issue!

This month's the spiritual exercise is making a list. Be sure to look at that exercise and bring your list with you to your Journey Group.

Five excellent TED talks are listed. You'll want to see them!

Questions, p. 9:
1. What is joy? What is its relationship to happiness? What feelings and images come to mind
when you think of the word “joy”?
2. What, in your life now, gives you joy?
3. What brought you joy when you were a child? Is that source of joy gone? Has it evolved?
4. What is the relationship between joy and sorrow?
5. What will be your legacy of joy to the generations that follow yours?
6. What regular habits and practices might create more joyfulness in your heart, home and
community?
7. How much joy do you really want? If you could choose what percentage of your waking
hours for the next four weeks will be filled with ecstatic bliss, what would you choose? What are you
doing to bring your experience closer to the percentage you chose?
8. Think of some moments when you felt most alive. Does there seem to be a connection
between aliveness and joy?
9. If 50% of your happiness comes from your genetic “set point,” how cheerful by nature would
you say you are? If 10% of your happiness comes from circumstances, how do your circumstances rate
these days? If 40% of your happiness comes from what you do and think, how are you doing in this
area?
10. How do you experience the connection between creativity and joy?
11. Kahlil Gibran says, “Your joy is your sorrow unmasked....The deeper that sorrow carves
into your being, the more joy you can contain.” How do you experience the connection
between joy and sorrow? Some say that your openness to (capacity to take in and not push
away) joy is equal to your openness to grief or pain. Does this seem true?
12. Is joy for you a solitary or communal experience?
The link to the current and all past issues of On the Journey can always be found at cucmatters.org/p/journey-groups.htm

2020-04-23

Fardin & Mahnaz on NPR

Fardin & Mahnaz were on NPR! They were part of a story about local refugees helping with the coronavirus response in Westchester.

If you have three minutes, the story is well worth a listen.


Wall of Vows

Instructions: Articulating Your Vow
As you think about how you would articulate your Great Vow, it’ll be helpful to reflect on your sources of vow. There are three sources: inherited, reactive, and inspired.

Inherited Vow. What is your inherited vow? As you were growing up, what were you given to understand by your parents or primary caretakers was the primary function of a life? They may never have articulated it to you, but if you had to now articulate what your parents’ great vows were, what were they?

Reactive Vow. What experiences of wrong or harm have shaped you? Sometimes people who become doctors had a formative experience with illness or death -- or people who become lawyers experienced injustice in their childhood or youth. Or maybe unpleasant experiences with your parents or other significant adults imbued with a clarity about the kind of person you wanted NOT to be. What reactions in your life have shaped your sense of the purpose of your life?

Inspired Vow. We pick up inspired vows – often in adolescence or early adulthood – when we learn about someone we admire. We aspire to be like them. Martin Luther King Jr’s vow of nonviolence came from an inspired vow – inspired by the life and work of Mahatma Gandhi. Athletes often draw inspiration from a particular athlete they admire. Who are your heroes?

Discerning Your Vow. To bring out your vow -- to consciously articulate and thereby strengthen it as the orientation of your life -- it helps to explore those three sources of vow: the inherited, reactive, and inspired. Then reflect on how to bring this sources together into one overall Great Vow of your life. You may Email your Great Vow to me at minister - at - cucwp - dot - org. OR: Add your vow as a Comment below.

Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation's
Wall of Vows

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I vow to live with compassion and integrity.

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Make the time to care for yourself, to be kind to all others, and to protect the planet. -Jacy

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I vow to push forward in love.

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I vow to live soulfully, and to give back.

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My great vow is to give of myself through caring, nonjudgmental listening, my empathy and sympathy, my friendship to all those who are struggling in life with things like sickness, death, relationships, daily life for an immigrant etc.

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To give everyone the care I give to my family. To hold my beliefs lightly and change them as circumstances change.

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To be present in loving awareness.

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I vow to be mindful of both self care and care for others.

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I vow to know, to know not-knowing, to not know;
To learn to be what is new, to arrive fresh, to arrive in love, to endear;
To stumble with, to embrace, to grapple;
To companion, to befriend, to love, to love, to love;
To attend (to serve, to wait);
To notice, to bear witness, to never let creation play to an empty house;
To be the motion of stillness -- and the stillness of motion;
To yield, and yield, and yield, and budge not an inch;
To receive all the pain of the world -- and all the joy;
To rest in the peace of defeat -- restless in triumph;
To live until I die -- and die, and die, and die until I live.

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I vow to love and to learn.

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Accept all beings as my teachers

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I vow to recognize, cultivate and nurture community

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See the Magic in everything.

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CARE

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Aging gracefully
With Compassion, Frugality, and Joy

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Inherited: education has a way live to my adult live life free of economic uncertainty and potential hardship; don’t let others squelch my talents
Reactive: to be free of emotional instability
Heroes: political and cultural leaders who fought for fairness and equality, e.g., JFK, RFK, MLK, Gene McCarthy, Pete Seeger, Bob Dylan

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Inherited - Be selflessly loyal to one's family
Reactive - Be open minded, no matter how challenging
Inspired - Learn to be happy with less

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I vow to live soulfully and use my gifts to give back.

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I want to be a home my children can--and seek to--visit throughout their lives.

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To give and receive love. To continue to learn, evolve and move forward. To listen more. To speak up. To not be afraid. To always be kind.

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I vow to keep learning about what really matters.

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Be the person who makes others feel welcome and thereby makes him/her self feel welcome and fitting in.

2019-09-19

Faith Development Friday

Faith Development Friday
Fri Sep 20
An AWESOME evening of learning, spiritual growth, and community

EVERYBODY COME!


Please RSVP to CUUCevents@gmail.com.
We need to know how much pizza to order and booklets to print!

6:15p Pizza & Salad Community Dinner
7:00p - 8:30p Programs

Faith Like a River -- Final Session
Led by Rev. Meredith Garmon.
Join the exploration of what Unitarian Universalism is! Who are we? What is our story?

In this last session, we'll explore our how we have spread "the good UU news." We'll learn about individuals and groups that carried the good news of Unitarianism, Universalism, and Unitarian Universalism to new populations; explore Unitarian Universalist "evangelism"; and reflect on how to continue to engage our faith's history to bring Unitarian Universalism to future generations.

If you have a chance to look at the stories and hand-outs beforehand, you may find that helpful.
SESSION 16 READINGS: CLICK HERE.

ZOOM from home. At 7:00, click this link: https://zoom.us/j/2898507899 to join the "Faith Like a River" class from home.

Family Journey Groups
Parents discuss the monthly theme, COVENANT, while children meet separately for related activities. (Adults without children are also welcome to join the parents' group.)

The "COVENANT" issue of On the Journey is HERE.

Social Gathering
Adults may continue their mealtime conversations and spend some unstructured time together with fellow CUUC-ers.

After the programs: Sharing coffee and further chat.

2019-09-05

Journey Group Sign-Up Time!


Journey Groups for 2019-20

Everybody sign up! Click HERE and select the Journey Group you'd like to be in.

Three Journey Groups are available on 3rd Sundays, after service (or after community meal, if there is one):
  • Room 43: Facilitated by Rev. Deb Morra
  • Room 31: Facilitated by Gary Freiberger
  • Room 22: Facilitated by Rhonda and Steve Miller
Other Journey Groups include:
  • 2nd Thursdays, 7:30pm, Parsonage, Facilitated by Debbie Manetta and Kevin McGahren-Clemens
  • 2nd Fridays, 11:00am, Parsonage, Facilitated by Rev. Meredith Garmon or Rev. Kimberly Debus
  • 3rd Thursdays, 7:30pm, Tarrytown, Facilitated by Mary Van Hoomissen
  • 3rd Fridays, 7:00pm, CUUC, room 24, Facilitated by Alex Sehdeva
  • 4th Thursdays, 10:00am, Scarsdale, Facilitated by Terri Kung
  • 3rd Sundays, 5:00pm, White Plains, Facilitated by Karen Leahy


FAQ

Q: What's a Journey Group?
A: In a nutshell, these are groups of 5-15 people meeting monthly to explore the CUUC theme of the month, using the related issue of our magazine, "On the Journey." Find the current and all past issues HERE. For details on how our Journey Groups work, see HERE. To grasp the value and importance of Journey Groups, take a look HERE. For an explanation of Theme-Based ministry, of which our Journey Groups are a part, see HERE.

Q: I'm already in a group. Do I sign up again?
A: Yes, please. Every September, it's time to sign up again. Click HERE and select the group you're in, just to confirm for us that you're staying in the same group.

Q: Can I switch groups?
A: Sure. Just click HERE and select a different group.

Q: Is the September issue of "On the Journey" out?
A: Yes. It addresses the theme, "Covenant." The Sep "On the Journey" is HERE.

Q: What if my schedule won't allow me to attend very many of the monthly gatherings of any one group?
A: Please go ahead and register for that group which you expect to attend most often. If you have a variable monthly schedule, you may need to attend one group on some months, but another group on other months. That's perfectly OK! All groups allow for drop-ins -- just let the facilitator know that you're coming.

Q: Most months I probably won't attend any group at all.
A: Sorry to hear that! If you would, though, please register yourself for the group you're most likely to attend -- even if you'll only be going once or twice during the year.

Q: The group I was in last year isn't listed.
A: Please select another one.

Q: Is it too late to start a new journey group?
A: Nope. New groups should form before the end of September, though, for the 2019-20 year. Each group will need to have a facilitator. Contact Rev. Meredith Garmon if you're interested.

Q: What are the themes for 2019-20?
A: Here's the line-up:
Sep: Covenant
Oct: Awe
Nov: Compassion
Dec: Grace
Jan: Authority
Feb: God
Mar: Redemption
Apr: Eco-Spirituality
May: Joy
Jun: Vision

2019-06-11

Adult RE, Jun 10-16

Adult RE
at
Community UU

All are welcome. No registration, and you need not have attended previous sessions. Drop-ins welcome!

Thu Jun 13 at 11:30-1:00, Fireplace Area: Science and Spirituality. We'll be discussing Carlo Rovelli, Seven Brief Lessons on Physics -- in particular, the first half of this short book (i.e., pp. 1-38; "Preface" through "Fourth Lesson."
With shared luncheon. Bring something to share if you can easily do so.

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Fri Jun 14, Faith Development Friday. 6:15p: Pizza & Salad Community Dinner
7:00p - 8:30p Programs.
Programs include: Parents Journey Group (facilitated by Alex Sehdeva)
Kids Journey Group
"Faith Like a River" Class (facilitated by Rev. Garmon)

The June "Faith Like a River" class is titled "Global UU." In this session, we'll explore:
  • ways Unitarians, Universalists, and Unitarian Universalists have been influenced and enriched by encounters with cultures and heritages outside North America and Western Europe;
  • past and present Unitarian, Universalist, and Unitarian Universalist faith communities located outside the United States;
  • the dynamics of partnering with Unitarian Universalists across cultures.
See the readings for this session HERE.


2019-06-03

Adult RE, Jun 3-16

Adult RE
at
Community UU

All are welcome. No registration, and you need not have attended previous sessions. Drop-ins welcome!

Tue Jun 4 at 3:00-4:15, Fireplace Area: Wise Aging. Facilitated by Revv. Meredith Garmon and LoraKim Joyner.
We're currently looking at Joan Chittister, The Gift of Years: Growing Old Gracefully. For our Jun 4 session we explore the "Ageism" and "Joy" chapters. Among the questions we'll discuss:
  • How have you dealt with negative stereotypes of aging? Do you think you've internalized them to some extent?
  • Are you on a mission to prove the stereotypes wrong?
  • Do you agree with Seneca that "the gradually declining years are among the sweetest in life"?
  • Chittister speaks of "being moved quietly off all the platforms of life." She says we might feel bitter about being displaced, or we might be glad to be free of the "stagecraft that goes with" those platforms. How have you experienced either?
  • Are you, or have you been, "drunk with the very thought of being alive" -- spreading "the joy we have finally been able to find in ourselves"? How has this played out -- or not -- for you?

Tue Jun 11 at 3:00-4:15, Fireplace Area: Wise Aging. Facilitated by Rev. Garmon. This session will explore the "Authority" and "Transformation" chapters of Chittister, The Gift of Years.

Thu Jun 13 at 11:30-1:00, Fireplace Area: Science and Spirituality.

Fri Jun 14, Faith Development Friday. 6:15p: Pizza & Salad Community Dinner
7:00p - 8:30p Programs.
Programs include: Parents Journey Group (facilitated by Alex Sehdeva)
Kids Journey Group
"Faith Like a River" Class (facilitated by Rev. Garmon)

2019-05-03

On the Journey, May: Beauty

The May issue of "On the Journey" has arrived! HERE

We'll be exploring BEAUTY. Don't miss it, and don't miss your Journey Group meeting to get together to work with this issue!

Here's your preparation:

Check In, p. 1. Where/how do you most often experience beauty?

"Poems," pp. 2-3. Issa, "virtue beyond virtue." Foster, "Jeanie with the Light Brown Hair." Millay, "Still will I harvest beauty where it grows." Hopkins, "Pied Beauty." Gwynn, "Fried Beauty." Burroughs, "The Beauty of Black." Wilbur, "The Beautiful Changes." Byron, "She Walks in Beauty." Song of Songs Canticles.
Do any of these speak to you? Reveal a new perspective?

"Beauty Quotations," p. 4. Which quote is your favorite? Why?

"Beauty in People 1: A Twilight Zone episode synopsis," pp. 5-6. Is "lookism" a serious issue? Are standards of beauty/ugliness arbitrary?

"Beauty in People 2: The Gender Issue," pp. 6-7. (1) In what Alkon says, what is true? Of the parts that seem true, what is unchangeable reality and what could be changed?
(2) Rather than redefine personal beauty, why not instead, drop the idea that personal beauty matters? If how one feels inside is what matters, why call that “beauty”? (We tend not to call it beauty when it’s related to how men feel inside.)
(3) Which message is more important for a girl to hear: “You are smart and kind – beauty is for nature and art, not people” or “You are beautiful”?
(4) Is it possible and desirable that X minutes a day spent on dress and grooming (for any given value of X) will make the same social difference for a man as for a woman?

"Beauty in Nature," pp. 7-9. How does the Wilson/Dutton thesis change how you view nature?

"Beauty in Art," pp. 9-10. Is Dutton's argument convincing? Is Dutton’s account implicitly sex-specific? That is, given that the male peacock, not the peahen, evolved a large showy tail, does Dutton’s account explain artistic skill in men while failing to explain why it has evolved just as strongly in women?

TED Talks about Beauty. Which one is your favorite?
  • Denis Dutton (philosopher), “A Darwinian Theory of Beauty” (2010). This talk, quoted extensively in the issue, is worth watching for its delightful illustration. HERE.
  • Richard Seymour (designer), “How Beauty Feels” (2011). Our response to beauty and the surprising power of objects that exhibit it. HERE.
  • Eva Zeisel (ceramics designer), “The Playful Search for Beauty” (2001). Reflections on what has kept her work fresh through a 75-year career. HERE
Questions, p. 11.
  1. What’s unique (or nearly so) about your personal sense of beauty? What do you find beautiful that most other people seem not to?
  2. Confucius claimed, “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” Is this true? If everything is beautiful, then what is the point of beauty?
  3. If our society were to reduce gender inequalities (to the greatest extent you can imagine), what effects might this have on standards of personal beauty (for women or men)?
  4. We rarely hear the phrase, “a little bit beautiful.” Do most people – and do you -- tend to think of things as either beautiful or not – without much thought given to comparative degree of beauty? If so, is that a mistake?
  5. With the notable except of music, beauty tends to be a visual perception. For those of us who are sighted, most of the arts and all of natural and personal beauty seem to rely first and foremost on our vision. So how would becoming blind – as best as you can imagine – shift your relationship to beauty? Would the concept come to mind much less? Or would you reconceive its nature?
  6. Is there such a thing as too much beauty? In what ways do you withdraw from experiences of beauty, and why?
Our Spiritual Exercise: Find Beauty: HERE

The link to the current and all past issues of On the Journey can always be found at cucmatters.org/p/journey-groups.htm

2019-03-05

On the Journey: Humility

The Mar issue of On the Journey has arrived! HERE
This month, UU Journey Groups will be exploring HUMILITY. Don't miss it, and don't miss your Journey Group meeting to get together to work with this theme!

The Mar issue of On the Journey features
  • poems from Kobayashi Issa, Jane Taylor, Emily Dickinson, Seamus Heaney, John Bunyan, Charles Simic, and Jan Levitt
  • a quotations page of 33 provocative, witty, or trenchant remarks
  • Commentaries by Rev. Scott Tayler, Pema Chodron, David Brooks, Roger Fisher, and Beverly Flaxington
  • A link to a Carl Sagan video
  • a spiritual exercise for the month
  • a page of intriguing questions
The Questions Page. Select one or two questions to “live into” -- carry around with you for a few days before your group meets. Then share your thoughts or musings with your group.
  1. Has your view of humility changed as you've grown older? Does it mean something different to you now than it did 10 years ago? 20 years ago? Even 30? If it has changed, why? How has that change changed you?
  2. Have you ever had a hard time drawing the line between humility and humiliation? Humility isnt’ (or shouldn’t be) about being a doormat. Have you ever been seduced into believing that "staying small” or “sacrificing yourself" is virtuous? Who or what helps you learn that one can be humble and worthy at the same time? Or are you still trying to learn that?
  3. Has humility ever been dangerous for you? Humble people are honest about their flaws, but being honest about your flaws also leaves you vulnerable. Has this ever got you stomped on? Manipulated? What have you learned about the importance of being “selectively humble”?
  4. Do think humility is different for men and women? Are the costs of humility different for one sex than they are for the other? What about the dangers? The rewards?
  5. Are you happy with your ability to ask for advice or take criticism? When was the last time you genuinely asked for advice or were truly glad for "constructive criticism”? And if you can't remember the last time, what's up with that?
  6. Do you humbly share credit, or do you slyly keep it for yourself? Do you spread the praise? Appreciate others’ contributions? Acknowledge your indebtedness?
  7. Have you mastered the humility of withholding judgment?
  8. When you're hurting, do you humbly ask for help or proudly put on a smiley face and hide your pain?
  9. Has your lack of humility ever made you miss out? What have you held yourself back from, for fear of looking silly or lacking control (dance lessons, learning to ski, risking a date, going back to school)? Is that humility or is it pride?
  10. How much did you earn what you have? In what ways are you, too, guilty of “being born on third base and thinking you hit a triple”? How much are you defined by your accomplishments and status? Do you give enough credit to grace?
  11. How does our culture’s emphasis on wealth-attainment and self-indulgence effect you? Messages prizing the attainment of material wealth and encouraging self-indulgence bombard us daily. We are not entirely free of these expectations. How can we be a member of this society and also nurture and maintain a personal spirit of humility?
  12. What’s your question about humility? Is there some other question that’s niggling at you?
Questions from the poems and commentaries.
  • Is it arrogant to keep one’s house swept clean of spiders?
  • Does humility accentuate beauty?
  • These “meek members of the resurrection”: is this what many living imagine they are and will continue to be in death? Is their humility false?
  • “To labor and not seek reward” – is that “self-forgetful or agony”? What lesson to you find in the mythic St. Kevin?
  • Does humility (sometimes?) have an ulterior motive? If it does, it really humility?
  • Have you felt important (exalted?) lessons were in humble objects? The last line suggests that this, too, is a projection of ego. Do you think it is?
  • Epistemic humility: abandoning pretenses of knowledge. If we acknowledge frankly that we don’t know how to be in the world, does this increase or ease our difficulties?
  • Is awareness of grace the essence of humility?
  • “For us, humility is about sight,” says Tayler. Is that what humility is about? How well do UUs truly know the things claimed for us in his last paragraph? How well do you?
  • Can you be grateful to those who annoy you? Does such gratitude facilitate humility?
  • Is Brooks correct about a “tectonic shift in culture”? What does this shift mean for how you live?
  • What has been your experience of humility, or the lack of it, among those working for social justice?
  • Do Flaxington’s five suggestions seem helpful? How would your assess yourself on these five?
The link to the current and all past issues of On the Journey can always be found at cucmatters.org/p/journey-groups.htm

2014-11-20

What's In a Name?

Since 1972, we have officially been called the “Community Unitarian Church at White Plains." Over the past 20 years, the thought has surfaced and resurfaced numerous times as to whether our current name continues to reflect who we are as a congregation. This fall, our Board of Trustees appointed the What's in a Name? Committee to engage our members in a process for group consideration of our name. The goal of the What's in a Name? Committee is to get input from every single member and friend through this process. We have met with several committees and groups to date and are now ready to schedule small group meetings for members and friends who have not yet had the opportunity to complete a survey on our current name and alternative options.

We would like everyone’s input. PLEASE PLAN ON ATTENDING ONE OF THESE MEETINGS if you have not done so yet:

Sunday, February 1st at 11:40 in room 24.
Sunday, February 8th, at 11:40 in room 41.


THESE MEETINGS WILL NOT TAKE MORE THAN 20 MINUTES as our mission is simply to gather information from you. Child Care will be provided. Grab your coffee and come on over.

It is important that you read the short, informative packet that can be accessed through the CUC website -- Or: CLICK HERE -- before completing a survey at one of the meetings. If you are not able to do so, let us know and we will be glad to e-mail you the packet. Hard copies are also available on the welcome table in the lobby.

If you have any questions, please contact any one of us on the committee. We look forward to meeting with all of you.
Karen Dreher
John Cavallero
Karen Schatzel
Scott Damashek
Adine Usher